Going through a child custody case is a challenging experience for any parent. You’re facing a reduction in the amount of time you have with your children, and this can be frightening for you and them. When they aren’t with you, they are going to be with your ex. Being able to work out a suitable parenting plan with your ex can help stabilize the situation so that the children can thrive.

One of the most important things that you can do is remember that your child has to be the sole focus on the custody plan. You can’t do things that you think will make the situation worse for your ex or better for you. Instead, every decision you make must be based on what your children need.

It’s easy to think about your emotions and the circumstances that led to the divorce. When you do this, there is a shift in the focus of the child custody matters. Even if that shift is subtle, it is still enough that it can have a negative impact on the kids.

For the most part, the things that led to the end of marriage don’t need to be discussed when you’re talking about custody and parenting time. The only exceptions to this are when there was abuse of some sort that would impact the safety of the children. This also includes alcohol or drug abuse.

You must work out a parenting plan that the court will see is in the best interests of the children. Your attorney can help you find solutions to the issues that are plaguing the situation, even if this means coming up with creative custody solutions.